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'Herbal Viagra' and 14 other supplements may increase disease risk

Some supplements currently available on store shelves may increase the risk of cancer, cardiac arrest and organ damage, an investigation by Consumer Reports reveals. The ingredients are present in products available online or at major retailers such as Walmart, CVS, GNC, Costco and Whole Foods.

With the help of independent doctors and dietary-supplement researchers, analysts identified 15 supplement ingredients that may pose health risks to consumers. The Food and Drug Administration (FDA) does not regulate diet products and supplements, and a growing body of research suggests their potential risks outweigh perceived benefits.

Among the ingredients the firm identified is Yohimbe, also called ‘herbal Viagra,’ as it treats low libido and erectile dysfunction. According to the analysis, the substance can cause seizures, and liver and kidney problems, among other risks including death. Green tea extract powder, which is used for weight loss, can exacerbate anemia and glaucoma, damage the liver and also possibly cause death, among other problems. Kava is used to reduce anxiety and improve insomnia, but it may raise the risk of Parkinson’s and depression, as well as cause death.

The report identified the following supplement ingredients as risky:

· Aconite

· Caffeine powder

· Chapparral

· Coltsfoot

· Comfrey

· Germander

· Greater celandine

· Green tea extract powder

· Kava

· Lobelia

· Methylsynephrine

· Pennyroyal oil

· Red yeast rice

· Usunic acid

· Yohimbe

Consumer Reports found that the ingredients’ possible harm depends on individuals’ pre-existing health conditions, as well as the quantity and length of time they have consumed the substances. Their findings also suggested that many of the ingredients have the potential to interact with over-the-counter and prescription medications, like statins, aspirin and warfarin.

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How To Know If You Have A Loose Vagina Or Normal – Know The Signs

Is my vagina loose or normal? Satisfactory sexual relationship is one of the main requirements for a healthy personal relationship. Wide vagina can prevent you from climaxing during sex. Tightening vagina is an important step in enjoying sex.

How to tighten your vagina – Is this your question? Before knowing the best way to tighten vagina without surgery you should know if you have a loose vagina or not.

It is not necessary to visit a gynaecologist to know if your vagina is loose or tight. You can find it yourselves by looking for a few important signs and symptoms. Do you want to know how to know if you have a loose vagina or a normal vagina?

Symptoms that show that your vagina is loose and wide

Inability to grip your finger

Insert your forefinger into your vagina. Try to grip it by tightening vagina and contracting vaginal muscles. Are you not able to feel the finger? Your vagina may be slightly loose. Try to insert the middle finger and forefinger together. If you are still not able to feel anything, your vagina is more loose than you thought. If you are not able to feel anything when you insert three fingers, your vagina needs immediate care.

Urinary incontinence

You will not be able to control the urge to urinate. Urine may start to leak when you do activities like lifting heavy things, sneezing, coughing and laughing. This is because of weakening of pelvic muscles and loosening of vagina due to drop in estrogen level.

Reduction in sexual orgasm

Are you not able to achieve orgasm frequently? Are you not able to enjoy sex like before? Failing to climax easily is one of the symptoms of flappy vagina.

Bigger objects for arousal

Are you not aroused by inserting small objects? Are you in need of lager objects for arousal? This is certainly a sign of a very big vagina.

Inability to satisfy your partner during sex

Friction is an important factor necessary for satisfying your partner during sex. When you find disappointment written on the face of your partner after ejaculation you should find if your vagina is loose or normal.

How to know if you have a loose vagina or a normal vagina – If you have one or more signs of loose vagina, you should know your vagina is loose and needs tightening up. Now you can proceed to find the right way to tighten your stretched vagina.

What can you do to make your vagina tighter again?

There are surgical and natural ways to tighten vagina.

What are the surgical ways?

Vaginoplasty – It is a vaginal rejuvenation procedure. This surgery tones, strengthens and tightens vaginal muscles. The surgery may cause scars in your private parts and may cause other side effects.

What are the ways to tighten vagina naturally?

Home remedies for tightening vagina

* Kegel exercises

They are easy to do exercises. It takes just 10 minutes to complete the set of exercises. The Kegel exercises help in contracting pelvic muscles and vagina area. It is effective but may take several months to see results.

* Gooseberry solution

Boil gooseberries in water. Store the solution in a container. Apply this solution in your vagina before taking bath.

* Vaginal cones

These cones have weights hanging. The cone is inserted into the vagina. The weights are left to hang for two to three minutes. This strengthens and tightens vagina.

* Leg up exercises

Lift your hips with your elbow resting on the floor. Lift your right leg as high as possible without bending your knees. Count up to 10. Then do the same with the left leg. Repeat it 5 times.

* Vaginal tightening creams

There are many natural vaginal tightening gels in the market. Which is the best vaginal tightening gel? V Tight Gel is one of the best vaginal tightening creams that work. V Tight Gel reviews speak highly of the product and its effectiveness. It restores suppleness of the vagina, firms up the vaginal walls and eliminates the dryness of vagina. Where to buy V Tight Gel? Buy it from the official site. It comes with money back offer.

* Vaginal tightening capsules

oral pillsThere are numerous vaginal tightening herbal pills. Which is the best among the several natural vaginal tightening tablets? If you read several reviews, you will find that VAGIFIRM is one of the best vaginal tightening herbal pills that work. Vagifirm reviews are positive.

Vagifirm ingredients are natural and effective. It tightens your vagina. It increases libido. It lubricates your vagina walls. It gives relief from menopause symptoms. It comes with money back offer.

Which is the best solution to make it tighter again?

Which is the best way to make your vagina tighter? All vag tightening methods are safe but which one of them gives fast results to make my vagina normal again? Vaginal tightening gels and pills are the best option to get a tighter vagina because of the quickness of results, ease of usage and safety of usage.

You got the answer for the question how to know if you have a loose vagina or a normal vagina. You got the answer for the question which is the best way to tighten vagina naturally. Both the vaginal rejuvenation products – V Tight Program and VAGIFIRM herbal pills are sold with guaranteed results. Use them together for better results. Buy today because tomorrow never comes.

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One Thousand Cuts… Terrifying Ancient Chinese Torture and Execution Methods

While today we use boring methods of execution so as to preserve the humanity of both the executioner and the executed, back in the day they really didn’t give a shit about the people they punished. In fact, humiliation and suffering were important aspects of torture and execution, and no one did this better than the ancient Chinese. They were highly creative and seriously sadistic in their methods, and liked to do things slow and steady, often prolonging death for days. Below are some of the methods used in ancient China to torture and execute prisoners:

Also known as “slow slicing” or “death by a thousand cuts,” Lingchi involved the removal by knife of flesh from the body in small pieces and small, non-deadly cuts to limbs and torso. After chunks of flesh had been removed from all of the limbs, they were amputated from the living torso. The executioner made sure not to bleed the victim too much in order to prolong death until the final cuts to the throat or heart were made. Lingchi was brutal and slow, and a punishment that carried on into the afterlife, where it was said that a person killed by lingchi would not be whole after death. According to Sir Henry Norman in his book The People and Politics of the Far East, the executioner sliced off pieces by “grasping handfuls from the fleshy parts of the body, such as the thighs and the breasts…then the limbs are cut off piecemeal at the wrists and the ankles, the elbows and knees, the shoulders and hip. Finally the victim is stabbed in the heart and his head cut off.” Lingchi was one of those brutal torture methods that were photographed in the 1800s with the advent of the camera, so there are a lot of scary photos of this one!

Flaying

Flaying, or the removal of skin from the face or body of a person, was practiced all over the ancient world, but the Chinese were very fond of it. Customarily, it was done with a sharp knife, carefully slicing into the dermis and removing the skin of the face in one piece. Many Chinese emperors and empresses loved flaying their detractors, The Hongwu Emperor in particular – he ordered the flaying of 5000 women in 1396. The skins were either stuffed with straw or nailed to a wall to show off to any potential enemies of the state. I also found a particularly gruesome story about flaying with mercury, whereby the victim would be buried upright to the neck, and have two cuts made in the scalp and mercury poured into them. The weight of the mercury would cause the skin to separate from the flesh, and when the victim writhed in pain they would slip from their skin like a banana from the peel. I couldn’t find anything to back this up, but it sounds awesomely fucking sadistic!!!

Bamboo

Bamboo grows at an insane rate, sometimes feet per day, so the Chinese took advantage of this by using it to slowly kill prisoners in an excruciatingly painful way. The prisoner would be suspended above shoots of living bamboo that had been sharpened to a point. As the bamboo grew, it would slowly pierce the victim’s flesh and grow into their bodies to pierce their organs. Nobody had to get their hands dirty, the bamboo did all the work. I can’t imagine the terrifying feeling of the bamboo pressing into my flesh, knowing that it would inevitably enter my body.

The Wooden Horse

According to the Chinese historical documents known as the Twenty-Four Histories, a woman who was convicted of conspiring to kill her husband with her lover was often punished with a device known as a wooden horse. This was basically just a sharpened wooden stake that she was hung above, with the tip in her vagina, and then she was cut down, allowing the stake to enter her body and pierce through it until it came out the top. Holy fucking hell that is disgusting!!!

The Nine Familial Exterminations

As well as creative torture and execution methods, some Chinese emperors were especially brutal when it came to whom suffered at their hands. The Nine Familial Exterminations is a good example – when a person was condemned for crimes like treason, the emperor may also choose to punish eight other levels of their family, which meant their children, parents, grandparents, siblings, siblings in-law, parents in-law, aunts and uncles, often by a method like lingchi. In one case, that of Fang Xiaoru, a scholar in the Ming Dynasty who refused to write the inaugural address for the incoming emperor, he asked that ten levels be executed, so the emperor also included his students, and executed a total of 873 people.

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Deadly Substances Are Lurking in Your Supplements

A growing number of quick-fix supplements have a dirty secret, and it’s killing young, otherwise healthy people looking for an edge. So what is the FDA going to do about it?

In August 2013, an alarming number of sick people started showing up at the Queen’s Liver Center, in Honolulu. The patients had eyes as yellow as a highlighter pen. Some were disoriented. Dr. Linda Wong, a liver transplant surgeon there, recognized the symptoms: The patients were experiencing acute liver failure.

This was odd. When acute liver failure happens, it’s almost always caused by a virus, or a patient’s boozy bender, or an attempt to OD on Tylenol. But these patients—most of them young, in their 20s and 30s—didn’t fit that description.

At first, Wong wondered if they’d all contracted some rare tropical disease or an infection, but nothing quite fit.

People suffering from acute liver failure go downhill really fast, says Wong, who is also a professor at the University of Hawaii Medical School. Two of the sick people immediately went on a liver transplant list to receive new organs from the mainland. “They had seven days to live,” she recently recalled.

Finally, after months of sleuthing, Wong, her colleagues, and state health officials found the culprit: Most of the patients had been taking OxyELITE Pro, a hugely popular dietary supplement that had been touted for its ability to help consumers lose weight.

In early October, Hawaiian health officials pulled the supplement from store shelves. The problem didn’t end there, however; others were sickened nationwide before the scare was over.

In November, the U.S. Department of Justice announced it had filed criminal charges related to the sale of the products against supplement maker USPlabs LLC and six of its executives: Jacobo Geissler, of University Park, Texas, the CEO of USPlabs; Jonathan Doyle, of Dallas, the company’s president; Matthew Hebert, of Dallas, responsible for product packaging design; Kenneth Miles, of Panama City, Florida, a quality assurance executive; and Cyril Willson, of Gretna, Nebraska, a consultant.

The government also filed charges against SK Laboratories, the lab in Anaheim, California, that manufactured the supplements for USPlabs. It also filed charges against Sitesh Patel, of Irvine, California, the vice president of SK Laboratories.

In addition, USPlabs, Geissler, Doyle, and Hebert are charged with conspiracy to commit money laundering and obstruction of an FDA proceeding.

The indictment alleges that USPlabs billed its ingredients as natural plant extracts, “when in fact it was using a synthetic stimulant manufactured in a Chinese chemical factory.” (It’s illegal to put substances not found in nature in supplements.) The government alleges that the company covered up its importing of this and other chemicals. According to one email among the companies’ top executives in the indictment, “lol stuff is completely 100 percent synthethic [sic].” What’s more, USPlabs knew the chemical in the Hawaii incident could be toxic to the liver.

Yet after the Hawaii outbreak, the company told the FDA it would stop distributing OxyELITE Pro, “but instead engaged in a surreptitious, all-hands-on-deck effort to sell as much OxyELITE Pro as it could as quickly as possible,” according to the indictment.

“The Company stands firmly behind the safety and integrity of its products,” according to a statement by an attorney for the company. “[T]he Company and its owners vehemently deny that the Company ever attempted to defraud its retail customers or consumers, sold any unsafe products, or engaged in any wrongdoing. They expect to be fully vindicated and look forward to their day in court.”

On the same day the Justice Department announced charges against USPlabs, it also announced that it had recently filed five civil cases against other supplement companies, ranging from a company advertising a product to treat herpes to another selling a product allegedly containing an unsafe food additive called DMAA, an amphetamine-like stimulant. In the past 12 months, the federal government and federal agencies have pursued cases against more than 100 makers and marketers of dietary supplements.

So what does all this mean for consumers, who’ve been baffled in the past few years by news of questionable practices among some supplement makers? Does this crackdown mean a new era of law and order for the chaotic, $38 billion supplements industry?

Don’t bet your Asian ginseng on it yet.

“It really shows what the FDA is up against, because it shows there was a very specific intent to defraud the public and the agency,” says Joshua Sharfstein, a former principal deputy commissioner at the FDA and an associate dean for public health practice and training at the Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health, of the USPlabs case. Though the damage occurred two years ago, people are only now being prosecuted, Sharfstein explains. “I think it shows the FDA is determined to do everything it can to protect consumers but that the tools the agency has are very, very hard to use.”

Supplements—vitamins, herbal remedies, amino acids, weight-loss capsules, erection pills, probiotics, protein powders—are huge business in the United States. Roughly 85,000 different products appear everywhere from your corner pharmacy to Walmart to the virtual shelves of the Internet. Roughly half of the U.S. public pops a dietary supplement, according to estimates.

But the industry has a problem. “[S]ubstantial sections of the market for these products remain disorganized, deceptive, and dangerous,” Sharfstein and colleague Akshay Kapoor wrote in the November 2015 issue of the journal Drug Testing and Analysis.

For a culprit, many critics finger the law that regulates supplements: the 1994 Dietary Supplement Health and Education Act. While prescription drugs must prove they are safe before they can be sold, “[a]ll supplements are presumed safe until the U.S. Food and Drug Administration [FDA] proves otherwise,” Pieter Cohen, an assistant professor at Harvard Medical School and an expert on the industry, wrote in a 2014 article in the Harvard Public Health Review. The burden of proof is on the FDA to test and find problems with a supplement, which is expensive and time consuming—and it can be hard to find a problem until after people start leaving a paper trail at hospitals. The upshot: The American consumer is “playing the role of the rat in the laboratory, the guinea pig,” Senator Richard Durbin (D-IL) has said.

Also, unlike prescription drugs, “[y]ou don’t have to prove that your botanical supplement does anything,” says Richard van Breemen, director and principal investigator at the Center for Botanical Dietary Supplements Research at the University of Illinois. Mostly, companies are required to follow some basic manufacturing standards and not make unverified claims to treat disease.

No wonder the public is confused: According to studies, most consumers incorrectly think the government vets supplements before they appear on shelves. One survey even found that many doctors also (wrongly) believe the same thing.

But as the industry has flourished, so have abuses. The Government Accountability Office found in 2012 that one in five supplements sold for weight loss or immune system support included prohibited disease-related claims on their labels.

Yet misleading claims are only one problem. An even larger problem is what that bottle, pill, powder, or capsule contains. Last February, the attorney general of New York State ordered retailers like Target, GNC, and Walmart to stop selling certain popular products such as echinacea, ginseng, and others after a DNA study requested by the attorney general’s office found that, overall, only about 20 percent of the store-brand herbal supplements actually had the plant in them that they advertised.

Instead, researchers found that the supplements contained everything from houseplant (dracaena) to asparagus. The work was similar to 2013 findings by Canadian researchers. In that study, a supplement labeled as St. John’s wort, for instance, actually contained a plant known to be a powerful laxative.

While they sound funny—who cut my arnica with baking soda?!—this kind of adulteration can be deadly. Last year, an infant at a Connecticut hospital died when doctors gave the child a popular probiotic supplement that was later found to be contaminated with a mold.

Swapping out one ingredient for another isn’t the only problem. Natural ingredients listed on a label haven’t always been fully tested on humans and might have ill effects, say health officials. For instance, yohimbe, an African shrub that’s found in many weight-loss supplements, can cause elevated blood pressure or panic attacks, Cohen wrote last year.

Then there’s the issue of synthetic chemicals turning up in supplements, as is alleged in the indictments against USPlabs, SK Laboratories, and its executives.

Hundreds of products have been spiked with illegal pharmaceuticals, the FDA has said—from Viagra knockoffs slipped into a sexual-enhancement supplement to a prescription statin put into a red yeast rice.

Earlier this year, Cohen and his colleagues said they had found a synthetic amphetamine called BMPEA in more than half of U.S.-sold supplements that were labeled as containing Acacia rigidula—products with names like JetFuel and Yellow Scorpion. BMPEA isn’t found in nature and isn’t allowed in supplements. Its safety in humans hasn’t been studied. It has long been banned by the World Anti-Doping Agency. Since 2010, several athletes have tested positive for it, including an Olympic canoeist who claimed he had inadvertently consumed the substance in a supplement. Canada pulled products containing BMPEA from store shelves late last year. Yet the FDA sent warning letters to companies just last April, though its own study found BMPEA in products as early as 2013.

Why did the FDA move so slowly? Critics cite varying reasons, including the fact that for the past several years, top former executives from the supplements industry have run the FDA’s division that oversees that industry.

Young athletes are a big audience for many of these supplements, which has researchers worried. As many as 18 percent or more of strength supplements are contaminated with stimulants and/or anabolic-androgenic steroids, Travis Tygart, CEO of the US Doping Agency wrote in the November issue of Drug Testing and Analysis. Side effects of some of the additives in sports supplements aren’t well known, but there could be long-term problems. Earlier this year, researchers linked long-term use of bodybuilding supplements to testicular cancer.

Given all this, it’s perhaps also not surprising that supplements cause more than 23,000 emergency room visits each year, according to a study published in October in the New England Journal of Medicine. More than one in four of those ER visits are by otherwise healthy young adults, often using products related to energy or weight loss, said co-author Andrew Geller, a medical officer in the Medication Safety Program at the CDC’s Division of Healthcare Quality Promotion. As much as 20 percent of severe liver damage caused by drugs is now believed to be caused by supplements, as the OxyELITE Pro case underscored.

So, is there a way forward?

Last April, attorneys general called on Congress to begin more robust FDA oversight of the herbal supplements industry. That followed a deal struck between New York State’s attorney general and nutrition giant GNC to put in place a nationwide program—the first in the United States—to ensure the purity of its supplements.

Senator Durbin and Senator Richard Blumenthal (D-CT), meanwhile, have proposed legislation that would “give more authority to the FDA to require manufacturers to register their products and ingredients and provide proof of any health benefit claims.” So far, though, the bill has gone nowhere.

Everyone wants the few bad actors who blacken the eye of the entire supplements industry put out of business, according to Duffy MacKay, a naturopath and senior vice president of scientific and regulatory affairs for the Council for Responsible Nutrition, an industry group. “The supplement industry is willing to embrace transparency, is willing to stand by its products,” MacKay says. But he called any effort to have drugs undergo the same pre-market approval that drugs do “a deal-breaker.” “It’s not appropriate to use a drug model to regulate dietary supplements,” he says.

Perhaps there’s a middle path forward where everyone can win, says Sharfstein, the former principal deputy commissioner at the FDA, whose new article with Kapoor in Drug Testing and Analysis is titled “Breaking the Gridlock.” Their argument is to focus on what everyone can agree to, which means making supplements safe. To do this, they suggest several reforms: One is to mandate that every product be registered with the FDA before selling it. “That way, if a company tries to sell a product on the side, the agency can immediately take it off the market without having to do complicated testing.” Right now, the feds have no idea what’s out there. Next, standardize production so that consumers can be certain what is in every pill, powder, and capsule. Finally, bolster the FDA’s oversight powers.

But in the meantime, consumers need to take more responsibility, says Wong, the surgeon who first noticed the problems with OxyELITE Pro.

“If it’s too good to be true,” she says of supplements, “it probably is.”

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Albanian court finds British paedophile guilty of sexual abuse

David Brown has been sentenced to 20 years in jail for abusing children in the orphanage he opened in Tirana seven years ago

The Guardian

A British paedophile who ran a Christian missionary orphanage for abandoned street children in Albania has been sentenced to 20 years in jail after being found guilty of sexually abusing children.

David Brown, 57, a charity worker from Edinburgh, opened the orphanage seven years ago, claiming to be receiving instructions from God. He was found guilty in Tirana's district court today of "sexual relations with minors".

When the Guardian recently interviewed him in prison, Brown denied ever abusing the boys at the "His Children" orphanage, a ramshackle and overcrowded home for Gypsy children in Tirana, Albania's capital.

"I came to Albania because I wanted to help the Albanian children," he said. "Everything that I set out to do has been violated. I was these children's father."

During his trial Brown accused two other British helpers at the home of committing the abuse. Dino Christodoulou, 45, a social therapy nurse from Blackburn in Lancashire, and Robin Arnold, 56, a salesman from Cromer in Norfolk were extradited to Albania in May and are being tried separately for their alleged role in the abuse.

Brown was arrested in May 2006, following a raid on the orphanage. Sentencing him to the maximum sentence in a high security jail in Albania, the judge said he hoped the punishment would serve as a warning to other paedophiles. He ordered Brown to be expelled from Albania when he is released from prison, in 2028.

Before travelling to Albania, Brown provided bible lessons and camping holidays to boys in Scotland over two decades.

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I had vagina therapy with a vagina physiotherapist

I thought the recovery from my child’s birth would be easier than the birth itself. I was wrong.

My baby was born by scalpel – an episiotomy. Episiotomy, also known as perineotomy, is described as a surgical incision of the perineum and the posterior vaginal wall generally done by a midwife or obstetrician during second stage of labor to quickly enlarge the opening for the baby to pass through.

I cannot put into words what it was actually like.

She was perfect, although a little bloody. I expected to be back on my feet quickly. But I was wrong, so very wrong.

Life with a newborn is not easy, even less so when you have another child or two that also needs your attention. It is even harder when you are in excruciating pain.

The constant pain was debilitating. I was unable to walk some days and was often forced to look after my two children from the floor where I crawled everywhere. When my husband came home I was an emotional and physical wreck. I was often in so much pain I had to dose myself up on medication and lay face down on the carpet next to the blanket on the floor that contained a days worth of spit up.

Even thinking about sex was hard, it was eight weeks before we gave it a go for the first time. My husband was understanding, sympathetic about the lack of sex during the first few months, and lets be honest – also very tired from helping me with the night shift. But I’m sure it was also frustrating for him.

After eight weeks I was physically healed, but mentally… not so much. It was not really painful during sex, but it sure was afterwards.

I began to become convinced that there was something seriously wrong with my vagina.

I went to the doctor and pleaded with her to try and fix me. She gave my vagina the once over and said that everything looked fine, but said that there may be some nerve damage and she would send me off to get X-rays just in case it was a broken pubic bone.

Well hell, this must be it! I thought.

My vagina is broken! Six bloody months of walking around with a broken bloody vagina. It made sense!

Then the X-ray came back all clear. Although I was convinced that they must have done it wrong, I had to accept I didn’t have a broken vagina.

There was only one more step to take and the doctor suggested a physiotherapist…. for my vagina.

So off I went to a vagina physiotherapist. To have vagina therapy.

Did you even know this was an actual job? I sure didn’t. And as I sat in the hospital waiting room looking at all of the other patients quietly waiting in wheelchairs, sitting with helpers – post car crashes and work injuries – I worried about what they might be thinking of me. Where was her injury? Why wasn’t she limping enough to notice?

I walked into the little room accompanied by the physiotherapist, an attractive smart blonde woman with shiny black flats. I really wanted to ask her right off the bat what her deal was, why vaginas? Why not feet? But I saved that for the second visit two months later when she told me that she just wanted to help women and their sexual health. She sounded legit.

The exam was similar to a doctors exam but without as many contraptions, she asked me to do a kegel (where you tighten your vagina). I did, and she looked at me quite surprised, “Hmmmmmm” she said, with her finger still wriggling around inside me.

“That’s about as strong as I have felt…” she kept wiggling. “… And the left side is VERY tight!”

Post-exam she sat me down and told me what the problem was. I had a tight vagina. Actually she used the words “I think you have a condition known as vaginismus which is a genito-pelvic pain disorder. A condition that affects a woman’s ability to engage in vaginal penetration, where your pelvic floor is tight and can spasm.”

But all I heard was “TIGHT VAGINA”.

And you know what? I smiled, looked up to the ceiling nodded my head and laughed.

This whole time I’m walking around in constant pain thinking I had broken myself when in reality it was my muscles tightening up so much on the left side that the pain radiated down my legs. She gave me a print out with information about vaginismus. On the flip side of the page was some yoga, breathing and visualisation exercises.

I’m not really the most serious person. The printout had a diagram of a stick figure lady, legs up in the air, visualising her vagina relaxing. To this day, it’s quite possibly the most hilarious thing I have ever seen.

But I did all of the exercises. I breathed calmly like you wouldn’t believe. I visualised the hell out of my vagina getting all loose.

And it worked!

The pain subsided and I could walk around like a normal person without feeling like someone had shoved a porcupine up there.

The problem with any disorder that is caused in part by anxiety is that you are sometimes the only one that is in charge of your own recovery.

When I was diagnosed my physiotherapist had said exactly that to me:

“I have good news and bad news. The good news is that you are in charge of your own recovery. The bad news is that you are in charge of your own recovery.” Those words have stuck with me.

You can be helped along by medication and pain relief – both of which I have definitely taken. But ultimately it’s up to you. And it’s daunting to be the only one that can really fix you, but it is also empowering.

You don’t have to have a traumatic birth for you to be traumatised in some way, you don’t have to have a difficult birth in order to feel it was difficult for you. Birth is such a different experience for us all and our own experience of it and how we deal with it afterwards is unique.

Vaginismus is often triggered by childbirth but it can also be something that was always there, something that can develop in your teenage years. It can stop women from ever having sex or it can mean having painful sex frequently.

If you think you might have something similar please see your doctor as it could be a symptom of anxiety or something else.

Your sexual health is just as important as anything else in your life. I never thought I’d have vagina therapy but I’m very glad I did.

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I Can Orgasm Without My Genitals Being Touched — Am I A Freak?

Hey Refinery29,

The other night, something embarrassing happened. I jizzed my pants. Well, the female equivalent of it. There's this guy named Sean who I've had sexual tension with for years. Like, you could cut it with a knife. Up until recently, we've just been good friends with an unspoken desire to fuck each other's brains out. Simply sitting next to him in public gets me wet. Anyway, the other night he finally came home with me. We were making out on my couch, and I was sitting on his lap. I came. I mean, I came before we even really got to foreplay, let alone sex. His hands weren't even on my clit. This has happened to me once or twice before in my life. I'll be in a sexual situation and be so turned on that I'll have an orgasm before anything even happens below the belt. Usually, I just try to pretend like it didn't happen and continue hooking up (like I did recently with Sean), because coming this quickly seems a little embarrassing.

I realize that may sound like every woman's dream, and is a shitty thing to complain about when a lot of women can't have an orgasm at all, but I have to ask: Is this normal or am I a freak?

Sincerely,

Captain Comes In Her Pants

Dear Captain Comes In Her Pants,

If you're a freak, I'm a freak. Not too long ago, something similar happened to me. I was at a play (sex) party, so I had been around public sex for literally hours — which means I was very horny. As the party was winding down, I hooked up with a woman I met earlier in the night. We first began chatting about art and hit it off right away. But since I felt like a socially awkward teenager in her presence, I hid from her for a lot of the party. I was so attracted to her, it was as if I made her up in my head. I thought our sexual tension would cause the place to explode should we act on it.

I remember thinking, "I can't talk to this person, because I'm going to jizz myself the second she touches me." I was right. She grabbed my hand and led me to a bed. We made out for a long time, but never took off our underwear — and I came from dry humping alone. She wasn't even rubbing my clit! We were just making out and gyrating, and all of a sudden I felt an orgasm coming and thought, "Oh shit." I came and (like you) was a little embarrassed.

Granted, dry humping does involve some genital stimulation, so it's not a perfect parallel to your story. But I usually need intense direct clitoral stimulation with a hand or vibrator to get off. So, after I came, I told my new friend, "Oh my god, I came already. You must be magic." And honestly, she just seemed super flattered, and we continued hooking up.

While I understand your mortification, there's no reason to feel embarrassed. Many straight men, in particular, are obsessed with wanting to get women off, since it makes them feel like they're good in bed. And being good in bed can be an incredible ego boost (for anyone, not just straight men). Should this happen again with Sean, I think it's a great idea to tell him that he made you come so quickly — he'll be flattered. And since people with vaginas are capable of multiple orgasms, after you tell him and continue hooking up, you could even come again.

To make sure that we're not just both freaks, I asked a doctor if it's normal to come without direct genital stimulation. She has good news: We're normal! "There have been studies that show orgasm can be reached without necessarily directly stimulating the genitals," says Jessica Shepherd, MD, an Ob/Gyn at the University of Illinois at Chicago. "This is much more common in women and not often seen in men." The reason humans have this mystical ability is because the brain is the most powerful sex organ, Dr. Shepherd says. That's why you could come just by making out and sitting on Sean's lap after what sounds like literally years of fantasizing about him. It's also why I was able to have an orgasm while making out and gyrating with the woman of my dreams, even though I usually need much more than that to get off. Our brains were so aroused that our genitals climaxed like the chorus in a Katy Perry song.

And you're right: Some women have anorgasmia and can't reach orgasm at all. So I'd say you should consider your unexpected orgasms divine blessings, not sources for embarrassment. Also, it's worth mentioning that some women can come simply from nipple stimulation, so if your partner was fondling your breasts or nipples, that may have also contributed to your serendipitous orgasm.

So no, you're not a freak. Well, you might be, but that's a good thing.

Love,

Sophie

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